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  • 18 Nov 2024 10:03 PM | Mariana Fradman (Administrator)

    How to Tell if a Job Candidate is Lying

    By Bruce Hurwitz on November 1, 2024

    THE OPINIONS EXPRESSED IN THIS ARTICLE ARE SOLELY THOSE OF THE AUTHOR.

    "The eyes are the window to the soul." I looked it up and was surprised to find it comes from the New Testament. I don't know why it surprised me, it just did.

    Well, Matthew did not get it completely wrong. It turns out, as I learned while interviewing an expert on deception for my podcast, that they are the windows to the truth or, if you prefer, a lie. There's nothing even the best liar can do to hide it; our eyes react when we lie.

    Of course, if we honestly believe that what we are saying is the truth, there will be no reaction. If we have deceived ourselves, we can deceive others. It is only a lie if we know it is a lie.

    I was once deposed in a class action lawsuit filed by a client against a vendor. The vendor's attorney accused me of having called one of the vendor's employees a liar. She had the email to "prove" it, or so she thought.

    In response to her question, I said, "I did not call him a liar. I clearly wrote, 'They lied.' " Then I explained: He, meaning the employee, would not have known the answer to the question. So, he would have asked a colleague. The colleague may have asked someone else, who may have also had to ask someone. Everyone who provided the information told the truth, as far as they knew. Only the first person, the source of the lie, knew the information was false. That was why I had written they and not he lied. That was one exchange that I clearly won.

    In any case, in a totally different way, eyes once revealed a very unfortunate truth. We had a friend who we all knew was making a horrible mistake. His girlfriend was no good. We knew it, but he refused to believe it. They got engaged. He would not listen. They got married. She got pregnant. She gave birth to a healthy baby. The baby had beautiful brown eyes. Our friend and his wife both had blue eyes. It was, therefore, impossible for our friend to be the child's father.

    Whether or not the eyes are, in fact, the window to the soul, everyone can decide on their own. There is, however, no doubt, that they are the window to the truth. So, when interviewing a candidate, look at their eyes when they are answering your questions. If something looks suspicious, pupils dilating, tears forming, rapid blinking or eye movement, it may because the candidate's body is warning you not to hire them.

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  • 17 Nov 2024 5:05 PM | Mariana Fradman (Administrator)

    Bruce Hurwitz 6:45 pm on November 7, 2024

    Delivering Bad News During a Job Interview

    Cowards ghost. In other words, they disappear in order not to deliver bad news. Well, in a job interview, a candidate cannot disappear. They are sitting right there in front of the interviewers. So, what do you do if you, the candidate, have bad news to deliver? You deliver it.

    In this regard, I have dealt with two types of individuals. The first wait until I call them to tell them that they have the interview or to relay a job offer, and then they tell me what the problem is. The second immediately tell me about the issue.

    I give my recruiting clients (employers) a six-month guarantee that if for any reason a placement does not work out, I will conduct a replacement search for free. Needless to say, I do not want to have to honor that guarantee. So, in the case of the former type of individual, I advise my client not to hire them. They cannot be trusted. If they are going to wait until the last minute to provide material information which an honest person would have shared at the beginning, that pretty much tells the employer, and me, everything we need to know about the candidate’s character. They will not last six months, so why bother?

    In the case of the latter, no problem. They were honest and upfront from the very beginning. We found a solution to the problem meaning, in essence, there was no problem. They showed themselves to be of good character.

    There are two types of issues/problems that candidates have. The first, which they think is a big deal but usually isn’t (except in cases where the individual is being hired to finish a project within a certain amount of time) is of a personal nature, such as if the candidate has scheduled a vacation. Again, unless there’s a time factor connected to the job (which should be clearly stated in the job description), I have never had a client/employer reject a candidate because of a planned vacation. They always say the same thing, “Of course they can take their vacation; it just won’t be paid time off.” No problem. (Truth be told, I can’t think of any other example.)

    The second issue, which is serious, concerns a medical problem. I have dealt with many:

    The first two candidates I ever submitted for a job when I started my own firm, were homosexuals. They were both in their mid-forties. When they were children, 10- 11-years-old, which would have been some 50 years prior to my meeting them, psychiatrists actually treated homosexuality as a mental health disorder (see below). In both cases, the gentlemen were married and had children. By then, their “treatment” was anxiety medication and an occasional phone consultation with their doctor if they were having a bad day. They both asked me to explain their situation to my clients. I refused. I told them that when, in the interview, they were given the opportunity, “Tell us about yourself,” or were asked a question such as “How do you cope with anxiety?” to simply tell their story of how they conquered what was, as I just noted, a recognized disorder. I could not do justice to their success; only they could. And when the employers heard their stories, they hired them.

    In the case of other mental health disorders, autism, dyslexia, genius IQ (meaning a lack of social skills), stuttering, and PTSD, I had the candidates deal with it in the same way as someone with a physical issue.

    First, in the case of military veterans, the so-called 800-pound gorilla in the room is, “Do they have a health issue?” So, I tell them, after the normal exchange of pleasantries, to say, “Before we begin, I know you can’t ask me so let me tell you, I have no health issue. Now the employer knows the candidate is honest, upfront, and understands their concerns. No problem. No issue. And they are off on the right track.

    Now, in the case of persons with a mental health disorder or physical issue, they do exactly what the veterans I just mentioned do, with an obvious exception of their being a visible issue. They say, “I know you can’t ask, but I will tell you. I do have a health issue. This is what it is. This is what it means. And this is the ‘reasonable accommodation’ I will require.” (In the case of an obvious physical issue, they begin by saying, “As you can see..” and proceed to explain the issue and what “reasonable accommodation” they need.

    Of course, the candidate’s definition of “reasonable” may differ significantly from the employer’s but, in my experience, the issue has always been solved amicably. There was only one exception:

    I was doing a search for a company out-of-state, meaning that I never met with candidates in-person. One of the candidate I submitted, who got an interview, was confined to a wheelchair. I did not know that and he did not tell me. The employer was located on the second floor of a landmark building. There was a ramp leading to the ground floor (retail space), but no elevator. In case you do not know this, and I am not exaggerating, you literally cannot change a door knob in a landmark building without getting government approval. It would take a miracle to get the government to agree to the installation of an elevator. No elevator; no job.

    All other requests were gladly met. In fact, in some cases employers were a bit offended that I would even ask if the candidate could call a therapist from a private office, or sit facing the door (in the case of a veteran). From their tone of voice, they always sounded like, “Bruce, don’t ask stupid questions! Just have them here Monday morning!!”

    The key is to be open and honest. If you deliver the “bad news” at the beginning of the process, and not surprise them with it at the end, you should have nothing to worry about. And if you present your condition as an example of an adversity that you have overcome, greater, I hasten to add, than anything they would encounter on the job, you will make yourself an even more desirable candidate. Remember: Employers do not like surprises, especially when hiring.

    NOTE TO THE HATERS: Before you accuse me of being a homophobe, please note that homosexuality was only removed from the American Psychiatry Association DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) in 1974 (as you can see from the below screenshot taken from their website. That said, you will also note that they changed the name over the years). As I understand it, the reason was apparently political, in response to activists, and not medical. That would explain why it remained on the DSM just under different names. Under DSM-V, which was published in 2013, it is called “gender dysphoria” and is thus a medical condition which may be treated.

    While I usually preempt the insults by quoting Churchill, this time I shall quote DIckens, The truth is the truth; and neither childish absurdities, nor unscrupulous contradictions, can make it otherwise. (From American Notes: The Young Man from the Country.)


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    Delivering Bad News During a Job Interview | Employment Edification

  • 02 Sep 2024 11:06 PM | Mariana Fradman (Administrator)

    Bruce Hurwitz 4:17 pm on August 21, 2024  

    Fake Job Postings

    I can remember when a person looking for a job would buy the Sunday or Wednesday newspaper and look at the Classified ads. It was a simpler world in those days. But was it more honest?

    Sometimes I think that I earn part of my living helping the frustrated. Usually, it is someone claiming that they are being discriminated against. But sometimes it is complaints that applications go unanswered.

    There can be a simple reason for an unanswered application: The company does not have a good process in place to handle job applications. Management is rude. Or, what seems to be more prevalent these days, the job posting isn’t real.

    In May of this year, ResumeBuilder.com did a survey of over 1,600 hiring managers. The results were, to say the least, troubling. The key findings were: 40% of companies posted a fake job listing this year; 30% currently have active fake listings; and 70% of hiring managers believe the practice is morally acceptable

    (For the record, the jobs are posted not only on job boards, but also on company websites.)

    Why do companies do this? According to the survey for two reasons:

    First, their employees are overworked. Posting ads gives the impression that help is on the way. The company recognizes the stress and strain employees are experiencing. Second, posting fake job postings not only increases revenue, but also morale and productivity, because the overworked employees think the company cares.

    Apparently, these companies think they have stupid employees. Since the ads are fake, even if employees see “applicants” being interviewed, and 85% of the hiring managers questioned said they did interview for the position, after a while employees will figure out that it is all a scam. Help is not on the way. So, if revenue, morale and productivity had a rise, eventually, they will have a fall, perhaps even a crash. It’s a stupid way to do business.

    Likewise, posting job ads is said to give the impression that a company is growing. That is an important message to send to competitors, if they are foolish. When it becomes clear that the ads are fake, competitors will use the strategy against the company as a way to question their morals and long-term sustainability. It will backfire.

    What is most troubling for me is the 70% of the hiring managers surveyed saying, “posting fake jobs is morally acceptable.” It most assuredly is not.

    The important question is, how can a job seeker spot a fake ad? They can’t. But there are two obvious indications of possible dishonesty. (Not being contacted is not one of them. Forty-five percent of the hiring managers said they contacted applicants for fake jobs!) First, the salary range could be ridiculous. That said, offering too much or too little will be self-sabotage. (Wasn’t it Walter Scott who said, “O, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive?”) Moreover, it would defeat any benefit about increasing morale, productivity and revenue. If employees see that the company wants to pay significantly more than what they are currently earning, the employees will demand raises. On the other hand, if the employees see that the salary being offered is less than they are currently earning, they will think the company is looking to hire cheap labor and, if they are smart, they will immediately start their own job searches.

    Second, on most job boards applicants can see when the job was first posted. If a company has been looking for more than a month or two to fill a position, apply but don’t hold your breath. (Of course, the company can “close” the ad and then repost it.) If the company really wanted to hire someone, they would have done so.

    To be fair, the reason that a company cannot fill a position in a timely manner may not because the job is fake. It could very simply be that no one wants to work for the company. Either way, be careful.

    Fake Job Postings | Employment Edification (wordpress.com)


  • 22 Jul 2024 10:27 PM | Mariana Fradman (Administrator)

    By Bruce Hurwitz on July 18, 2024

    In his book, The 48 Laws of Power, Robert Greene (e-book edition, p. 237), provides a great description of the game of chess:

    Chess contains the concentrated essence of life: First, because to win you have to be supremely patient and farseeing; and second, because the game is built on patterns, whole sequences of moves that have been played before and will be played again, with slight alterations, in any one match. Your opponent analyzes the patterns you are playing and uses them to try to foresee your moves. Allowing him nothing predictable to base his strategy on gives you a big advantage. In chess as in life, when people cannot figure out what you are doing, they are kept in a state of terror—waiting, uncertain, confused.

    Of course, in a job interview, you are not facing an opponent but rather individuals who you want to become your confederates. Yet, there are similarities to a chess match:

    The most difficult part of a job search is patience. You have to wait for a response to your application. You have to wait for a response to your initial (phone) interview. You have to wait for a response to your in-person interview(s). And you have to wait for the job offer. Perhaps serving in the military is a great preparation for conducting a job search as, at least based on my experience, most of the time you just sit around and wait!!

    Being able to foresee the steps in the process is crucial. If you expect that there will only be one interview, and it turns out you will have to have multiple interviews and a test, you will become disheartened. The solution is quite easy: Ask! There is no reason in the world for the process to be kept a secret. If you know what to expect, you can prepare, most importantly, psychologically. The key to getting a job offer is confidence. Confidence is an emotion. If you are projecting depression, because you don't like the hoops through which the employer is making you jump, you might be confident you can do the job, but you won't be confident that you want the job. Employers can read emotions so, as your emotions are the most important thing you bring to an interview, you have to protect your king - confidence!

    Finally, note what was said about patterns in chess. The analogy in interviewing is that different interviewers will ask you the same question(s). Then they will compare your answers. They don't have to be word-for-word identical, but if they are different, you can forget about getting an offer. In that case, you have lost your king and are checkmated.

    Why a Job Interview is Like a Chess Match | Employment Edification (wordpress.com)


  • 18 Jul 2024 3:16 PM | Rayfield Carter Jr

    How to create an resume for a internship? What are the do and don't and hiw to I create a cover letter?

  • 24 Jun 2024 8:17 PM | Mariana Fradman (Administrator)

    References

    by Bruce Hurwitz

    Many, if not most, job applicants are worried about being able to provide positive references. Ironically, more often than not, my clients (employers) have not asked for references. When I protest, the response is always, "No one provides a bad reference." Not true! It happens.

    Some applicants want to be proactive and include references on their resume. That's a mistake. Here’s why:

    1. By definition references will know of possible candidates for the position for which the applicant is applying.  The employer or recruiter can call them and ask if there is anyone they would recommend for the position they are looking to fill without mentioning the applicant whose resume they received.  Why would an applicant want to give an employer/recruiter an avenue to find additional candidates?  And what does it say if one of the names the reference provides isn’t the applicant's?
    2. It is foolish for an applicant to provide names of references until the applicant knows they are interested in the position.  Imagine if the applicant sends out 10 resumes, and the recipients of five call the references.  The references will begin to think that there is a problem and no one wants the person.  If the applicant, after meeting with the employer and their staff, decides they want nothing to do with the company, the references will have no way of knowing that the applicant turned the employer down and not the other way around. They will also be curious about why they are being called without notification from the applicant.
    3. Accordingly, it is crucial that prior to giving out the names of references, the applicant, now candidate, actually wants the job and that they have the ability to (a) confirm that the reference is available (they may be on vacation, at a conference, have a family emergency, etc.) and that they remember the candidate. (I once had a former colleague have an employer contact me for a reference, and I did not remember her!)  Additionally, the candidate has to prepare the references so they know what to emphasize when speaking to the employer/recruiter.
    4. Finally, if the employer/recruiter asks for references, telling them that they will get them in a day or two because they first want to make certain they are available, shows that the candidate is a professional and does not want to waste the employer’s/recruiter’s time.  (There is nothing worse than calling someone for a reference and the person does not return the call.)  It, the request for references, is also something they can be added to the thank-you email so the employer/recruiter knows that the candidate did not forget the request.  Then, the next day, they can follow-up with a second email with the names of the references, a brief blurb about how they know them, their contact information, and, to show that they are considerate, their time zone.  You don’t want someone on the west coast being called at 9 AM Eastern time.

    I honestly cannot think of a single reason to include references on a resume.  After all, it takes up space that could be better used focusing on the applicant’s accomplishments.  No longer is “References available upon request” included on a resume, because it is a silly statement of the obvious.

    For the record, ideally references are former supervisors.  Secondarily, if supervisors are not available, colleagues will usually suffice, especially those higher on the organizational chart. Board members and major clients/customers may also be acceptable.  In the case of older candidates, persons they have helped to advance in their careers are ideal, as the interviewers may consider older candidates a threat to their position. Knowing that they have a record of helping younger colleagues should allay those fears. Personal references should never be given.  There is no need to provide more than three references.

    References | Employment Edification (wordpress.com)

  • 17 Jun 2024 8:20 PM | Mariana Fradman (Administrator)

    Efficient Candidate Vetting

    Bruce Hurwitz

    This is the final in a series of eight articles, geared towards recruiters but which provide important insights for job seekers.

    If any recruiter ever claims that they have not been conned by a candidate, they are either a novice in the field, totally unaware, or a liar.  (Of course, they may just be lucky, but I doubt it.) 

    Just as there are professional students, individuals who arrange scholarships to continue their studies so they never have to actually get a job, there are also professional interviewers.  These are individuals who interview brilliantly.  They convince everyone that they are the best possible person for the job.  Any red flags, such as length of employment, they can easily explain away.  They are masters of their trade.  The problem is, they are terrible employees.

    So why do these charlatans get away with their cons?  It’s simply the fault of the interviewers.  They so want to fill the position that they forget the basics.  It’s almost like a person with a horrible disease clutching at straws to find a cure.  They are great targets.  But recruiters must not be targets, they must be recruiters.

    So, what red flags must be allowed to wave from atop the flagpole like Old Glory?

    If the candidate can’t hold a job, you don’t want them.  And if they don’t include dates of employment on the resume, it’s a sign they can’t hold a job and you don’t want them.

    If the candidate's references are LinkedIn recommendations, you don’t want them.  There are no negative recommendations on any LinkedIn profiles.  Why?  Because the owner of the profile controls what appears on their profile.  No one is going to post a negative recommendation.  Moreover, many people trade recommendations.  They simply cannot be trusted.

    If there are discrepancies between the candidate’s LinkedIn profile and resume, it is not necessarily a red flag but is a topic for discussion.  What is a red flag is if the candidate’s behavior on Facebook, X, etc. is less than professional, while totally so on LinkedIn.

    If the candidate is not available during regular business hours to be interviewed by the recruiter, you don’t want them.  If they can’t meet with the recruiter, they won’t be able to meet with the employer.  Moreover, if they can’t figure out how to take time off in the middle of the day to interview, even if it is a video call which they could take on their phone in their car, that pretty much tells you everything you need to know about their ability to cope with predictable situations, not to mention the unpredictable.

    If the candidate’s voice mail message is unprofessional, that can be a red flag.  They obviously have not prepared for a job search where a professional image is everything. If they do not prepare properly when, in essence, they are their own client, the probably won’t prepare well when the client belongs to the employer!

    When conducting a video interview, and there should always be a video interview, note where the person is.  If they are in their car because they are at work, fine.  But if they are home, pay special attention to the background.  If they are using a background image or have blurred the background, they are hiding something.  That’s a red flag.  If the room they are in is messy, it’s safe to assume that that is how their office will be.  True, they might know where everything is and therefore, from their perspective, there is order.  But, still, impression is reality and employers do not want clients or prospective clients to think their employees are disorganized.

    Finally, look carefully at the candidate’s resume.  Even if they have kept their jobs for a good length of time, and have no gaps in their resume, it is a definite red flag if the candidate has not really advanced in their career.  If they have not increased their responsibilities and authority, it is best to pass on them.  They have no ambition.  A person who does not grow in their career will not contribute to the growth of a company.  Clients want to grow or, at least, not stagnate, which is what the candidate has done in their career.

    By identifying red flags, a recruiter can eliminate unattractive candidates and focus on candidates who have the potential, not only to be hired, but to remain on the job a significant period of time.  At the end of the day, that is what the recruiter wants.  No recruiter wants to have to honor their guarantee that a candidate will stay on the job a minimum amount of time.

    Efficient Candidate Vetting | Employment Edification (wordpress.com)


  • 14 May 2024 12:27 AM | Mariana Fradman (Administrator)

    Bruce Hurwitz 7:35 am on April 4, 2024  

    The Thank-You Email and the Most Important Question to Ask in a Job Interview

    It is funny the things we remember seeing on television when we were children. For example, I remember a Nobel Prize laureate being asked, “To whom do you credit your success?” He replied, “My mother. When my friends returned home from school, their moms would ask them if they had given the teacher good answers to her questions, my mom would ask if I asked any good questions.”

    It is my firm and sincere belief that the questions you ask in a job interview are actually more important than the answers you give. When you ask a question, it is an opportunity to show how well you prepare for meetings and, specifically, how well you have researched the employer and the interviewers.

    The most important question you can ask is focused on the after-interview phases of the hiring process: the thank-you email. A good thank-you can rescue a fair interview; a bad thank-you can ruin a good interview.

    Here’s the question: If I were to get the job, what would I be able to do to make your life easier? Ask every interviewer and write down their answer. This also means that at the start of an interview you need to get the email address of all the interviewers. (If someone says, “Just write to so-and-so,” then that’s what you do. But let’s assume that everyone provides their email.)

    The thank-you email tells a great deal about the candidate. It shows if they were listening during the interview, and whether or not they understood what they were told. It also shows if they are able to send unique thank-yous to everyone and not some generic letter that could relate to interviewing for literally any job. Lastly, it is proof that they can actually write a professional letter.

    The thank-you, which must be sent within a couple of hours of the interview, should be relatively short and go something like this:

    Thank you for interviewing me this morning for the XYZ position. [Now you are going to remind them of why you are the premier candidate for the position.] Having done X, Y and Z, after hearing your insights, I am even more confident now that I will be able to not only fulfill your expectations for the position, but exceed them.

    That paragraph will be relatively the same for everyone. Here’s where the uniqueness comes in:

    I heard you when you said that you need me to do X. I understand that that will help you with Y. Just to remind you, as I said during the interview, I have no problem in that regard because…

    Then a generic ending on the lines of, Thank you again for having taken the time to interview me. I look forward to hearing from you. Sincerely… will suffice.

    The “I heard you” paragraph shows that you were listening, understood, and are onboard to be the interviewers’ partner to help them achieve their goals. Who would not want a new hire like that?

    The Thank-You Email and the Most Important Question to Ask in a Job Interview | Employment Edification (wordpress.com)

  • 07 Mar 2024 8:14 PM | Mariana Fradman (Administrator)

    By: Bruce Hurwitz, Ph.D.

    Everyone has things that bother them. They are annoying and every so often a person has something they want to "get off their chest." As you may have guessed, I have something I want to get off my chest.

    Occasionally, someone calls and asks if I will be their mentor. It is an honor. That said, I am rather selective because I do not want to waste my time or the prospective mentee's. When I start to interview them, and they realize I may not agree to their request, they then make a fatal mistake: They offer to pay me. When I tell them that mentors are not paid, they tell me about friends who actually pay their "mentors" for their services. I will now tell you what I tell them.

    Mentors do not get paid. They help a person because they want to help them advance in their career, not to fatten their own bank accounts. A mentor's "payment" is the satisfaction of seeing their mentee succeed and advance.

    Business consultants are paid. They too want their clients to succeed and advance, but they want to be paid for their advice. First and foremost, they are in it for themselves. There is nothing wrong with that. It is not immoral, indecent or illegal. It's perfectly fine. It's just not mentoring, it's consulting.

    If you want someone to advise you out of the goodness of their heart, someone who is only interested in your advancement, get a mentor. If you want your very own employee (after all, if you pay someone they work for you!) hire a business consultant.

    (30) Copy of Mentor vs Business Consultant | LinkedIn


  • 28 Feb 2024 10:47 PM | Mariana Fradman (Administrator)

    In this episode of the Paralegals on Fire! Podcast Show, Ann Pearson discusses the concerns paralegals have about their jobs being replaced by overseas virtual legal assistants and AI. Ann provides actionable strategies to protect paralegals’ job security and increase their value in the legal profession. 

    You are worth more than $15 per hour! (paralegal-bootcamp.com)

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